KJ: The Queen of the Night by Alexander Chee
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Once upon a time, while drafting his own experiments in fiction, he pitched Scrivener on a mobile version, and when they declared themselves content with who and what they were, he set out to build it on his own-a simpler software specifically designed for story. Let’s just make hothusbanding a thing, too! *Starts making a list of people who would be into this so we can definitely make this happen ASAP.Have you ever, while banging out a document of any kind in Word or Pages or whatever, thought to yourself “Dang, this would be so much easier if _.” Every writer has been there, but only a few rare souls actually go on to “I am going to make something that does that, darn it.” In my opinion, if we don’t have hot husbands, we’re kind of perpetuating the Patriarchy. I’d love to see more wives owning the hell out of this and sending their husbands/partners off to get some ass from strange women, all for their kinky pleasure. The fact that hotwifing-but not hothusbanding-is so common in certain ENM relationships makes me wonder why we’re still so stuck on such toxic male/female, power structures in sex. Seriously: Where are all the hothusbands at? Therefore, the power held can be “mutual when both parties enjoy this kind of relationship.” Where are all the hot husbands?Įven though hotwifing can be sexually arousing for both parties, and that is totally rad, I really want to know where all the hothusbanding is. As Pepe Aguirre explains, when the hot wife enjoys being a hot wife, both people can engage in this lifestyle with plenty of gusto.
While all of this may sound low-key sinister, hotwifing isn't a bad thing when everyone is into it. “And, in some instances, a wife may not enjoy being a character in her husband’s scripts.” Oof. “Some men into the cuckold/hotwife lifestyle give the impression that they are a whole lot less interested in their wives’ sexual freedom and much more into choreographing their own pleasure,” she explains. Pepe Aguirre, CEO of Luxury Lifestyle Vacations, defines hotwifing as "a fantasy or kink of sharing your wife with other men." Which makes me wonder: Who is this kink really for? If you’re a woman being "shared," are you fully in control?Ĭlaudia Aguirre explains that this dynamic can have troubling implications-particularly when the husband is the one calling all the shots on who his wife is allowed to play with. Studio4 // Getty Images In the hotwife dynamic, who holds the power? Men aren’t supposed to be down for their wives sleeping with other people, and women aren’t supposed to get off on “cheating” on their husbands.
The hotness in hotwifing comes back to the taboo nature of it all. For the female partner who enjoys being a hotwife, it can be awesome to hold “a lot of power to go and hook up, have relations, and dalliances with other people as she desires.” For the male partner, it’s “humiliating, emasculating-or it can be-because other hot men see their wife as attractive, all of which have different varieties of arousal and can certainly bring spice into a marriage,” she explains. This dynamic can be very arousing for both people, Ghose says. The male partner in this dynamic is known as a “cuckold.” Said husband enjoys the idea of her getting it on with other partners and derives sexual satisfaction from it. In a traditional hotwifing scenario, the female partner is “actually encouraged by her husband” to go out and sleep with other people, explains Claudia Aguirre, cofounder of Luxury Lifestyle Vacations, a travel brand curating fantasy-like travel experiences for the sex-positive traveler.
So what does hotwifing actually look like in practice?
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